The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play With Power in Scenes and Relationships

My partner and I were together 14 years when my need to submit to him became unbearable.We had dabbled in D/s before - the trust was there, but we couldn't seem to find the spark or the inertia to keep going. Most attempts ended in tears or misunderstanding. After a brief and unpleasant period wherein I suspected I was simply not submitting well enough, we came to the unhappy conclusion that my partner was ambivilant about domming in general, and wasn't yet sure how to make his own personal desires known.This book lifted that fog just about immediately.Within hours of enthusiastically purchasing and reading this book and its predecessor, my partner's eyes lit up. Within days he was testing the waters with simple requests which I could easily refuse but which had a commanding quality to them I had never heard before. My heart swooned."I understand it now," my partner said. "I had been thinking of things too narrowly."Fulmen's prose is not only accessible and comforting to troubled would-be doms, but there is a wealth of information for impatient subs like me who might not exactly have been playing nice, either! He explores the different emotional and psychological frames that might make up the world of D/s to such a granular degree that even couples who have been together as long as we have can find where we've been missing one another and feel confident that there is plenty of ground yet to explore. Despite such wealth of detail, it is an easily and titillating read (even for my dear budding dom, who has self-professed attention issues).Thank you, Anton, for your insight and knowledge. We have definitely crossed into a new and exciting phase of our relationship.

It's really a great book. All too often, the authors of such books claim "expert" status and then just write pages and pages on their perspectives-which are *still* just opinions. This title looks at the roles, practices, terms, highlights, and also dangers associated with D/s (My preferred term) and power exchange dynamics from an objective (as in the opposite of subjective 😉) standpoint. The author relates anecdotal advice/experiences, but only ever as a means of illustrating a case in point for a given topic. The author, unlike many others on the topic, has written this book to clarify, inform, and help enhance one's ability/enjoyment of D/s, not to glorify his own ego or to pontificate on tangential issues. I HIGHLY recommend reading this, if only to understand your motivation/role more clearly and to bolster your understanding and enjoyment of power exchange type relationship dynamics.This is NOT a work of fiction, btw...

This is the only book I have read that approaches the power exchange dynamic from a psychological point of View. The book stresses the importance of open honest communication. This was a great read for those who are wanting to make a connection with their partner that want to really enjoy the power exchange experience.

This guide is perfect for anyone who feels like they already understand/have read about BDSM 101 — and wants to level up. It is extremely practical and inclusive to those who are both monogamous and nonmonogamous. If you’ve read introductions to BDSM and kink but are looking for more ideas about how to put it into practice in your relationship in very specific ways, this book is for you. I mean, it literally teaches you to “write your own script.”

I liked the fact that it wasn't over packaged, educational purposes.

This book was a wonderful sampler eith bits if information regarding all kinds of D/s dynamics. Highly recommend to those who want to explore more. I would have given 5 stars if Ch. 9 was a bit more clear about punishment from more modern behavioral perspectives some conceptual things were incorrect about modern behavioral principles but unless you are a behaviorist these nuances may not be obvious. However, all other information surrounding punishment was pretty spot on and seemed informed from basic principles of behavior.

I was searching for a book that wasnt aimed at new doms, and that was harder than i expected. But i eventually came across this and decided to purchase. I just finished it yesterday, and it was worth it. There is still some info geared towards newer doms, but the majority of the book is good for those who know the basics and maybe just need more examples of how to use that knowledge.Personally, i got the most use out of the sections on how to define roles and create better flowing scenes, and the parts that broke down types of power play and examples of them. This book definitely helped me gain a better understanding of the roles we can play and what we can do with those roles.

Great book, especially for those new to the lifestyle. Good for both Doms and subs. Highly recommend both his books.

Love it, so many good ideas and suggestions, well written and structured, easy to browse randomly or read the whole way through. More of a 200 level book than a basic intro, which is awesome.