The In-Between: Embracing the Tension Between Now and the Next Big Thing Paperback – August 1, 2013

Jeff Goins is an old soul in a young body. How else can I explain his wisdom? One would think his latest book, The In-Between: Embracing the Tension Between Now and the Next Big Thing would be geared towards millennials, people his own age. Yet I found myself relating just as easily to it. And I am old enough to be Jeff Goins' mother.Using stories from his own life, Goins tackles an interesting problem that we all face in our daily lives: what do we do with that time of limbo, when we're suspended in midair either waiting to fly away or waiting to fall? This waiting, as he calls it, requires that we examine the breakneck pace of our lives, filled with to-do lists, running here and there, jammed to the gills but never satisfying our deepest longings.Goins writes, "Waiting is the great grace. It's a subtle sign for those with eyes to see, reminding us there is work yet to be done--not just around us, but in us." Waiting requires slowing down and stopping, taking the time to examine our inner selves, and allowing for the development of that third eye, the one that reads between the lines and sees the value in the small stuff.Goins admits that he is terrible at waiting (but who actually is good at it?). I had to smile at his multi-tasking example: opening his laptop to check his email, surfing the web while waiting for messages to load, checking Twitter because heaven forbid a single second should be wasted! The computer is the hot button when it comes to waiting: when that little circle goes round and round indicating a delay, I feel my impatience rising quickly. The technology we have today is so instant that waiting has become a lost art. I imagine many brains are scrambled like Goins' thanks to TV and the internet.Waiting requires suffering and we don't like to suffer. Goins maintains that it is in the waiting that the "good stuff" is revealed, the dreams, desires, lessons and revelations. If our lives are filled with noise and busyness in an attempt to avoid waiting, we're going to miss the results.Goins had wanderlust and opted to satisfy it through travel. During his trip to Europe he felt a frantic need to fill every moment with sightseeing. It didn't feel right to stand still for an instant and the result was exhaustion. One day while standing in line at the Accademia Gallery to see David, the masterpiece sculpture by Michelangelo, he and his two friends stepped out of line and stood against the wall, eventually sliding down to sit. Too tired to move, they stayed for hours in that position looking at the statue. It was then that Goins had an epiphany about the value of slowing down, of waiting. He was able to study the statue and recognize its beauty. His companions did the same. The statue spoke to them in ways it never could have had they remained in the line and rushed through.Goins and his companions had made the mistake we all make--obsessing over more when actually less is better.As a mother of a son and daughter around the same age as Goins, I very much appreciated chapter two when the author writes about going home to visit his parents. On winter break from college, he chafes at the idea of spending time at home now that he has lived away on his own. Mothers especially tend to mourn their children leaving the nest, often for many years until finally, an acceptance settles in and the peace and quiet that ensues is welcomed. Visits home are a big deal and can be disappointing, even hurtful, if the child doesn't want to be there. Goins helped this empty nester understand better what goes through the mind of that child, reminding me of how I felt in my twenties visiting my parents. It had never occurred to me that my son, visiting from another state, would be going through the same kinds of adjustments that his father and I were going through. Rather than moving on together, we remained stuck in time: he was the little kid and we were the parents. We weren't allowing the relationship to evolve to the next level. Home is now a place he visits and that's the way it should be. In reading chapter two, I felt like I was reading the minds of my children.I especially appreciated the chapters where Goins talks about his creative experiences, first as a musician, and then as a writer. He was telling my story. His evolution was mine. Goins' blog, Jeff Goins, Writer, has been instrumental in helping me to embrace my vocation as a writer. He did in a few years what I did over a lifetime and he did that by recognizing early on the value of waiting, the value of reflection. He has allowed that third eye to develop and has encouraged that development and as a result, is able to dream and realize those dreams. This is a man who does not waste time and it's not because he is filling every second with activity. It's the recognition that life must have a chance to breathe.Chapter five on his courtship with his wife was very enlightening as to how twentysomethings feel about marriage. Goins is a solid man with a deep faith in God and yet he was terrified of committing to marriage. There is no doubt that today's world does not support commitment. There are too many choices and too many easy ways out. His experiences helped me as a mother better understand why my children feel the way they do about marriage despite the fact that my husband and I have been happily married for thirty-five years.The final chapters about his grandfather and death proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that this guy is indeed an old soul in a young body. Death is foreign and terrifying today thanks to today's medical advances. It was not that long ago that death was non-discriminating, hitting any age group. Today, young people have little experience with it, making it all the more frightening. Goins' acceptance of the sacredness of dying and death demonstrates why he is a man of wisdom. His stories of his grandfather's deathbed conversion and the two pillars of his church community, Lois and Al demonstrated a man who has learned to live in the present moment, appreciating what happens when it happens.Waiting has taught Jeff Goins a great deal. The In-Between is a remarkable book written by a man wise beyond his years. It transcends generations and would make wonderful reading for millennials and their parents.

First of all, I wish there were a 4.5 star option, but alas...Jeff has become one of my favorite writers. He is talented and uplifting and his love of the craft of writing is obvious on every page. Best of all, Jeff is a welcome mentor, offering encouraging and friendly advice on writing and life.While this book did not stir me in the same way as his first bestseller Wrecked, Jeff shares some excellent stories that illustrate the power of patience and embracing the little moments that lie "in-between" the big moments. Jeff proves that these moments are often more important and more profound than whatever it is we are waiting for. The anticipation of a moment is sometimes more powerful and more important than the moment itself.Jeff is a wordsmith, a master of the craft, and his writing holds tones of his contemporary master storytellers like Anne Lamott, Donald Miller, and Bob Goff. I look forward to Jeff's next release because I'm certain it will be superb.For some great tips on writing and life, check out Jeff's blog: goinswriter.com

I have never been a patient person. Just ask my husband. He is one who is willing to shop for months before you buy a car, a major appliance, a piece of furniture. And he's never bothered by any of the things that generally irritate me -- waiting in line, waiting in traffic, waiting at the doctor's office, waiting to get that important return call, waiting for the water to boil.When I picked up Jeff Goins', The In-Between and read the words on the cover, "Embracing the Tension Between Now and the Next Big Thing," I was intrigued and hopeful. Maybe I could learn something from this soft-spoken young man living in the former world I came from -- Nashville, TN and environs -- and someone I admire for his ability to write with clarity and to teach others to do the same.I was not disappointed. Jeff's writing style holds true as the 176-page reminder of the important things in life. The book is honest; Jeff is honest. He holds back nothing about himself in sharing with us what he has learned in a lifetime shorter than mine by more than half.We spend our lives looking for the next big thing when right in front of us is likely the thing we're looking for. We run around looking in all the wrong places. Jeff puts out a call to accept the role waiting plays in our ordinary lives. Why can't we just embrace the ordinariness of our days and enjoy each and every minute and hour experiencing the waiting. We might be surprised by what comes to us in the waiting.Jeff takes waiting and enriches it a thousand fold -- he gives waiting a new and fresh look that makes his reader want to wait, if for no other reason than not missing whatever comes in the waiting.A great, gentle read that transports you with Jeff's own true experiences with waiting and opens your eyes and heart to the possibilities of learning patience and experiencing the waiting.

Das Buch hat seine ups und downs, aber das Ende macht das ganze empfehlenswert.Alles im allen bin ich froh es zuende gelesen zu haben

I read Jeff's blog and i usually come through some very usefull posts, which make you re-think about your life style. So i gave him a chance.Well, this entire book could have been replaced with the one post in his blog where he first talked about being in the middle, waiting. Full stop. That post has the gift of saying with the right number of words a complete and complex concept.Instead, this thing here is some kind of diary anyone could have written about his life. You lose the message after seeing it reapeated over and over... and over... This is not a novel, not even a book. Dear Jeff, if you feel you are a writer, do as you often say: start writing. Because this is not writing, at least in my opinion.

Jeff Goins is a writer of immense depth and insight. In the In-Between he shares his story with us, from a year of touring with a band, to the story of how he met his wife, and lessons learned from throwing away his mothers necklace. He shows us with great tenderness how life rarely happens with the big moments, but in fact the incredible revelation that what really matters might be right in front of us.He argues that life is happening in the in-between moments, the here and now - and his story beautifully demonstrates this. He shares how he found his writing gift whilst waiting to be a musician, found purpose in eating a McDonalds with a homeless man and found love whilst waiting to go away with a band.This is a book for all of us. Because we're all in the in-between right now. Jeff's challenge to us all is to stop waiting for the next big thing - and embrace life here, today, now, and in the process discover the person we were made to be.

I found Jeff's insightfulness refreshing. Life is full of learning moments and Jeff expresses this process in a way which gives the reader permission to be in that in-between time, which at the time feels so unproductive.

Reading a new book often has the effect of endowing you with a certain amount of wisdom and often you knew more than you did before. I can wholeheartedly say that 'The In'Between'has taught me so much about life and the appreciation for the small moments that I never really expectedJeff really interweaves his story into the core fundamental message of the book - that you can draw lessons from the moments you are waiting in life because that's where the growth is occurring. His stories are so rich, and he rights with great passion, description and an essential honesty that you can't help but feel a great attachment to him and the message.In the end, you will reflect on your own life and actually see these moments. Personally I saw many periods of my life that had led me to where I am today and in the end you'll gain a new appreciation for them. To actively learn from these moments is wonderful and I highly recommend reading it to gain that perspective!